Respect yourself and others will respect you
How do I get others to respect me?
I’m asked this question regularly; by parents in regards to their children, children in regards to their parents, by women in regards to men, and men in regards to women…
Everyone wants to know how to stop people from treating them in ways they don’t like. They figure there must be something they can say or do to get them to change.
But they can’t. Not anymore than posting the rules in my house can get anyone who enters my home to obey them.
I always ask people, “Who’s the only person you can control?” And everyone always answers, “Myself” but then expects others to stop doing something they don't like when they ask them.
But it doesn’t work like that. Even if you ask them politely, using your scary voice, or a megaphone.
So how do you get others to respect you? By respecting yourself.
That means: if someone is treating you in ways you don’t like, then leave, end the conversation, hang up, go away, move into another room, whatever… But don’t expect others to leave you alone, go away, shut up and do whatever you want them to. Your boundaries are not their problem; they’re yours.
Take care of your own boundaries and, if you don’t like how others are treating you, respect yourself and don't stick around.